Videos where people express their opinion about Internet/Online dating.

Here are some videos posted on the Internet where people express their thoughts about Internet/Online dating. The some of all these opinions reflects the conclusions of this study published by Mary Madden and Amanda Lenhart.

There is also an important element emerging that many don't like to talk about. Among members of dating sites there are individuals that are lonely and depressed, looking for somebody to pull them out of their misery. Some serious publications about Internet dating portray online dating as less harmful for one’s self-esteem. One possible conclusion is that if you are already psychologically fragile, and you really need someone in your life, the best option is online dating. The argument is that rejection on the Internet is less damaging because the connection between the two individuals is minimal. This can be true in some cases, but I believe that the situation is more complex.

Getting rejected by someone in-person after some meaningful interaction can be very painful. But how many times a week can that happen for someone that doesn’t use dating services. In between two such uncomfortable events, the person can recuperate by receiving positive feedback from his/her social network, in different circumstances. Online dating is very intense dating. Let’s examine some elements extracted from these videos that have the potential to turn the balance on the opposite side.

A great number of members are rude, and not looking for serious relations. This is mostly true for free dating sites. The comments of these individuals can be very damaging for serious members that are psychologically weak.

Internet dating rejections don’t hurt too much, but you can get a lot of them in a short period of time. A great number of bad comments and a lot of negative feedback can affect the person’s self-representation.

Some Internet relations end up with a real date. Internet dating can generate a greater number of real dates or in-person meetings, the majority of them potentially tuning into rejections anyway.

So is online dating less psychologically damaging? Probably not always. Online Dating companies should pay attention to these issues and try to create a safe environment. As mentioned by many others, the quality of members is more important then the number of members!

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Video 1 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vGCOl_fU1ro

• Online dating experience with happy ending,
• Advantages: dating sites = big pool to choose from, anonymity.
• Most of the time it doesn’t work, misrepresentation, security problems, long distance relationships don’t work.

Video 2 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CJ0Ys1MT-k8

• Internet dating not a fruitful endeavour, security issues, inundated with messages, rude people, you need 1-on-1 face-time with people, disappointment for the first face-to-face meetings, for friends Internet dating worked.

Video 3 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=waD0wQSbG6s

• Good online dating experience, marriage resulted from Internet.
• Problems: misrepresentation, security.
• Advantages: distance not a problem, webcam and phone conversation help,
• In person contact important.
• Long distance relationships not strong.

Video 4 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkTy7k0R5sI

• Online long-term relationship (6 month), it can be done, but not sustainable for long time without physical contact. Communication and relationship.

Video 5 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6si2o1LQK4A

• About OKCupid, Internet dating = joke, skeptical, difficult to contact people, sites oversaturated with horny man, disrespect, superficial accusations and judgments, not a good environment for serious people, free dating sites not good.

Video 6 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=60KJtC1GGCo

• Dating and social networking on Youtube, Internet lacks tactile connection. Most of the people make horrible comments; good guys are lost in the pile. Internet is for making connections, long distance romantic relationships, Internet dating works for some people.

Video 7 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6rrOQEEtGtA&mode=related&search=

• Dating on Youtube

Video 8 http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-5996804953529316695&q=online+dating&hl=en

• Limitation of the Internet medium; in-person communication important; smell, taste, and touch are important; very negative opinion towards online dating; “You want to meet somebody, get out there! (...) get a good dose of reality”

Video 9 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TfQTDUyzTeQ

• Internet dating is not working, “I feel desperate”, she reads some responses she got back on a dating site.

Video 10 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DCbuEmlwBqE&mode=related&search

• Bad date, Internet dating makes it easy to find someone, but a lot of disappointment, tired of dating and meeting all the wrong people, not clicking, at the end she looks depressed.

Video 11 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uVuxm6dxoZE

• He gives Internet dating advice: ask a lot of questions, people are dishonest on the net, see the person.
• Advantages: photo exchange, webcam
• Disadvantages: misrepresentation

Video 12 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yVHekYFEhv8

• Romantic relationship online, guy deeply in love, the tragedy surrounding long distance Internet love.